In the past couple weeks, I have been hearing a lot about living in balance, observing the Sabbath and getting rest in general. The first installment came from my Pastor in a sermon on the Sabbath a couple Sundays ago. Then my friend Sarah wrote a post about her struggles with observing rest and as I have been following Simple Mom’s series on running a successful home business, my head is just full of thoughts and questions.
I find it a little bit amusing that I am writing this after a very relaxing weekend where my husband and I took our son and dog to stay with family and went to a hotel downtown for some good old fashioned R&R. We weren’t in search of anything fancy, really. We just wanted to eat out a couple times, sleep in and watch tv. In other words, we needed to REST.
I think we need to rest far more often than we do. And when I say we, I don’t just mean my family. I mean all of us. THE WORLD.
There are a few things that stand out to me about the 3 links that I shared above. I don’t think I have ever considered myself a workaholic and I am not. But there are definitely changes that I can make in my life that will bring true rest when I need it and not just a steady stream of stress-inducing situations. Because let’s face it, you can have so-called “balance” in your life, but if you have taken on too much, it is too much. Even if you can juggle it all, that doesn’t mean it’s healthy.
Living in Seasons
This is a really difficult idea for me. I am a creature of routine and habit. I generally do the same things at the same times each day. When my life gets thrown for a loop, I am literally an emotional WRECK. When we moved it was months before I felt like myself again. And there are days when I look around this house that we’ve been in for 6 months and wonder if I will ever feel the same again. There are certainly other days when I feel at peace, but the fact remains that transitional periods are NOT my strong point.
Living in seasons simply means to pan out and see the big picture whether it be in quarters, months or certain times of year and plan accordingly. Be like the ant and not the grasshopper. Know winter is coming and get the hard work out of the way so you can eat while the snow falls, so to speak. This is not a new concept, but one I am just realizing I haven’t been listening to at least in the past few years.
When a child comes into the picture, days turn into weeks and months and there seems to be a major loss of control. Keeping each daily routine feels like a victory. However, the deception is that each day just can’t be the same and that needs to be ok. Working with the busy seasons of life instead of against them benefits everyone.
This is a very sensitive subject for me. I don’t particularly care to be unplugged. We have our cell phones and our laptops and I run my business online. I also maintain many of my friendships, read the news, watch television, manage my bank accounts and do a lot of our shopping online.
It wasn’t until our power was out for 3 days after last month’s tornadoes that I realized what a difference being “offline” makes in our lives. And believe me, it wasn’t this AHA moment when I suddenly realized what I had been missing. It was a very subtle creeping in of ways in which I could tweak things here and there to make better choices. We sat in the dark alot. We talked. We slept. In effect, we were forced to rest. And we needed it.
In a world where even our supposed “rest time” is plugged in, your body and mind isn’t really resting. It’s ingesting more information, more colors, more sounds. We need a lights out from time to time. And that is just not easy for me.
Living with Schedules
As a creature of habit and routine, you would think that schedules and organization are MY THING. You would be wrong. SO wrong! I bristle at the idea of scheduling my time, much less my weeks and months. I think this is a direct result of the fact that I never really feel rested. The schedule to me says, Everything is planned! Nothing is spontaneous! You will never sleep in again! But I am coming to realize (again probably later than most) that a schedule can actually BRING freedom instead of sucking the life out of me.
We all know that we should go to bed at some point in the evening. Our bodies get tired and we just can’t do anymore. But how many of us are pushing it to the very last minute? How often do we decide to write just one more blog post or start a movie too late because we need that time to ourselves? I honestly think that if my days and weeks were better scheduled, I might not push myself to stay up until midnight to get my “me time” knowing that Oscar will be up at 7am rain or shine. When mama is tired, no one wins.
With this one, I am starting small. I bought a white board a couple weeks ago and I have sectioned off a portion for housework and various tasks that I am responsible for at home. I split them out by day and I know exactly what I need to do. Today it was groceries. Tomorrow, I will work on the floors. It’s simple, it’s effective and when I am done, I know I can move on to something else. This week I will be working on an editorial calendar for the blog and planning ahead for when the baby comes so that I can ease up during that season of change.
I am a good mom. I don’t feel that I need validation in that area. I adore my son and I can’t wait to meet our new little boy. But I am indeed a tired mom. Balance isn’t working for me. Juggling fifty plates in the air just because I am gifted at multi-tasking doesn’t make me more valuable. I don’t want to NEED my morning coffee. I just want to enjoy it. I want to find rest and I want to make it a regular part of each day because it is important.
Do you fight for your rest? Do you need make room for a Sabbath?
***photo by snigl3t