Personal goals for 2013

I originally had my professional and personal goals in one post but it was out of control long. So here I am with part 2 of my goals! This one is personal and hopefully between the two, I can really get some things done this year! Maybe I will get a handle on these things. Maybe I will be writing the very same list next year. But I know that by writing it down here, I am at least committing to TRY.

Home and Family

Last year at this time I had a barely five month old baby and an almost 3 year old. It’s hard to believe that one little year can yield so much change, but as Oscar will be turning 4 and Calvin is a year and a half, our daily lives need some adjusting. Right now both boys take an afternoon nap. I know my days are numbered with Oscar napping, but as long as he actually still falls asleep during quiet time, I am going to keep it up. Oscar is in preschool now and I am thinking we will send Calvin in the Fall. He doesn’t have nearly the separation anxiety that Oscar did and absolutely loves being social. I think this will be good for everyone.

In the meantime, I am looking for ways to make my mornings with Calvin more meaningful. Right now he is perfectly content to just walk around the house saying Hiiiii. As cute as that is, I’d like to get him out a couple times a week like I did with Oscar at that age.

Getting Organized

Oh it’s the cliche isn’t it? To get organized for the new year? Well, I’ll tell you what. I don’t care. I need to have a game plan and I am ready to get serious. I started a family binder with calendars, a master meal list for planning, emergency information and birthdays. Life is only going to get busier. It’s time to get with the program. I am sure my house could stand to be organized too, but for now I am focusing on the basics like food, cleanliness, and schedules. (More on the family binder soon)

Taking back my TIME

I am a pretty efficient lady. And I work quickly. This year I want to take my smaller chunks of time captive. Like the 20 minutes when Calvin is eating lunch before we go get Oscar from school. I know I can’t get work done then, but I could unload/load the dishwasher or fold laundry. When I know I only have a few minutes, I am tempted to browse online or chat with a friend. This is certainly OK some of the time, but I think the whole family could benefit from a few cleaning sprints throughout the day. Fingers crossed!

Family Time

We started a fun little tradition in 2012 called the Saturday breakfast. We would take the boys out to eat for breakfast somewhere and if it was nice to a park or something later. In theory, we looked forward to it all week and had a great time together! In practice, we all ended up yelling at each other and/or crying because who in their right mind gets four tired and hungry people out the door before 8am without insult or injury?

This year, I think we’ll make it Saturday brunch – or second breakfast. Have a cup of coffee at home and let the boys have some cereal. Then we can get out and enjoy the day.

We also have our bi-annual mountain trip to look forward to. It’s like looking forward to Christmas! But it IS Christmas! It’s like…. ALL THE CHRISTMAS! Very excited about this year because Calvin is no longer nursing AND he sleeps through the night. Score.

We are getting better at making date nights a priority and with the (amazing) help of local family members, we have been able to keep it up. More of that this year please! We like being married and we like having conversations that (wait buddy) don’t (just a second) sound (just…WAIT) like (MOMMY IS TALKING) this.

My….self

I lost 15+ lbs in 2012 and returned to my pre-Calvin weight. I do feel good about that accomplishment, but I still want to push forward to a healthier weight for my height. I am right on the high end of normal (on a good day) and the low end of “overweight” (on all the other days) so it’s something I want to continue. I have some plans in place and I am getting there. I think.

I also made a therapy appointment to talk about a lot of the unresolved feelings I have from 2011, the uterine rupture and various other things that have happened since then. As open as I can be about some things, I am totally so so closed about others. I look forward to my appointment.

And speaking of guilt, it’s time to let THAT madness go. It’s no good for anyone. We might make goals and grand gestures, but at the end of the day we are all human and we are blessed when we walk in GRACE.

Many of my blogging friends have asked me what my “word” is for 2013 and I couldn’t think of it until just now. 2013 is grace.

Yeah. I like the sound of that.

Would you like to share your personal goals? Link up or sound off in the comments!

Did you miss yesterday’s post on Professional goals? Check it out!

  • http://aparentingproduction.com Erin L.

    I am still working on my professional goals, but I did come up with my word for the year – Push! Should be interesting. Part of that is to spend more time with friends so that means coffee with you :)
    Erin L.´s last blog post ..My Word for 2013: Push!

    • Andrea

      Yay! I can’t wait. I am so ready for this year to rock!

  • http://whitdawg.blogspot.com Whitney

    RE: taking back your time. I have this little trick for everyday routine tasks that I easily put off. I time myself to literally find out how long it takes to, say, unload the dishwasher, take out the trash, fill-in-the-blank. It’s not something I ever write down or anything, but when I find myself with just a short bit of time (usually 5-7 min) before I need to leave to be somewhere it’s nice to have a mental list of things I could do in just that amount of time. And sometimes it just means I choose to check Twitter. But often I choose a more productive use of that smidgen of in-between time.

    RE: therapy. This is awesome! As a future counselor/therapist (hopefully!), I’m always excited and encouraged to hear about people taking this step and making mental health a priority. It’s important and our culture still looks down on issues of mental illness which is why so many of us stay ill/unhealthy when we don’t have to. I’ve been therapized (made-up word), and I know I’m a better and stronger person because of it.

    Wishing you a resolute 2013!! You rock, Andrea.

    • Andrea

      Thank you so much for your input Whitney! And yes, that time trick is exactly what I am talking about. I think it really will make a difference!

      I seriously can’t wait to go to the counselor. I know I will not want to leave :) Happy New year!

  • http://somebodysparents.com Amy

    I like “grace.” That’s perfect. I didn’t realize you lost 15 lbs. in 2012! Dang! Way to go! You always look pretty to me! ::hugs::
    Amy´s last blog post ..Resolutions? Whaaaa?- January 2, 2013

  • Andrea

    Aww thank you!! Most of the weight came off before BlogHer so you probably wouldn’t have noticed. I’d love to keep it going though!

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